No matter how much an alienating parent denies their children are suffering due, to the alienation they have caused with the target parent the truth is, these children often suffer in silence.
They may not always voice what they are going through emotionally because, of fear of retaliation at the hands of the custodial parent.
Instead, they remain submissive to the wrongful actions of this alienating parent in the attempt to please them. When they do speak up, they may be met with phrases such as, “your mother or father doesn’t love you as much as I do or whose side are you going to take?” This parent may threaten to withhold love and affection if, there appears to be any resistance on behalf of the child.
By ignoring what is happening to this child mentally and emotionally, we are denying them our love. These parents choose vindictive actions against the target parent instead of looking out for the best interest of their child and that is the right to know and love both parents. Though, obvious to most normal mothers and fathers, hatred can and will harm their children in the attempt to hurt their former spouse by any means possible.
As for the child, when one parent is ripped out of their lives and they are denied contact, there is a host of problems that await them. This may come in the forms of social withdrawal, low self-esteem, earlier than normal sexual experimentation and drug/alcohol abuse. Further, these children, in time come to believe this behavior is normal and accepted and may carry it on into their own families as they reach adulthood.
As the saying goes, when you choose to hate the other parent more, in the efforts to seek revenge, you are actually saying that your child is not important enough to love more. Clearly, this does not indicate signs of good parenting. Instead, it proves they are incapable of doing all that is necessary to foster a near or near as possible upbringing in their children’s lives that will promote a healthy balance.
When this occurs, it is up to our family courts to intervene on our children’s behalf to ensure that the best interest of the child is upheld. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. Instead, there are many judges in the family court system who rule with bias and heavy handedness and when they do so, the words “best interest” become nothing more than hollow words used to fill up empty space on parental responsibility order.
In the meantime, our children and the target parent suffer needlessly at the hands of the alienator. Hearts and spirts are broken. Mental and emotional anguish are a constant in their lives. Familial bonds are shattered in the attempt to hurt the former spouse in the most harmful of ways and that is through the erasure of the life the absent parent and child once shared.
For those who aid and abet the alienator, they are equally guilty in the greater scheme of this madness. They support what the alienating parent is doing and many times will assist them. When they do so, they cause the same negative effects on the children as what the alienating parent does. As such, they must share in this blame.
Over the course of time, when there is no rescue from the epidemic of parental alienation both, target parent and victim children are reduced to an empty shell devoid of any relationship they once had with one another. There are no happy childhood memories to share. No guidance for these children that only comes from both parents and thus, leaving them to conform to the thoughts of the alienator.
For those who have never heard the term parental alienation or have had it touch their own lives, you will never know or understand the pain and often lifelong negative effects this causes to a parent and their children. You will go on living your lives without ever realizing that a co-worker, a neighbor or the stranger on the street is suffering in silence.
Parental alienation happens more than you may realize. However, when we foster awareness, we can begin to promote positive change in the dynamics of family equality. Until then, we are simply raising our children to carry this vicious cycle forward to the next generation and more families will continue to suffer again.
This is the ‘Inconvenient Truth.’
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